I’ve noticed that lately people are too busy to look at other people’s lives. Throw the comment that they called “just in my opinion” things, but we have to know that those kind of unecessary opinions are useless unless someone is asking it from you. I sometimes feel bad seeing how someone’s face simply flips into disappointment after hearing others’s statements. I’m sure everyone knows the basic theoretical things like “everyone has their own point of view,” but unfortunately not everyone is mature enough to apply them.
Just you do you, could you? It doesn’t mean you strictly can’t give your opinion or comment on things, but be aware of the moment and place!
At some point, you might need to bring up things that you are concerned about. So, let me tell you a few moments that you need to be careful about your words.
1. When someone trusts you to hear about their personal matter
We have to know that sometimes people just need us as a listener. When someone shares their personal matter, it means they trust us to hear but doesn’t mean we need to jump in too far. Don’t interrupt! Moreover, give the unnecessary comment unless they are asking for the opinion.
2. When someone tries to keep their personal matter
Don’t ask! Yes, it’s a simple thing but quite hard to do, moreover if you have a high sense of caring for others or you like to do the random chitchat. Know the boundaries! People have privacy, and not everyone wants to share it with you, even when you feel both of you are close enough. It's ok if you want to share every single thing with your bestie, but don’t push them to do the same. Let people keep what they want to keep.
3. When someone is excited about something
This is one thing that can simply make people unmood. Again, that “everyone has the different happiness” is a common thing that we might often hear. But, unfortunately, we often find the vice versa on our daily. I respect everyone who has a good sense about how to react. It doesn’t mean you have to be a fake person with the sweetest mouth, but I’m sure you are mature enough to at least appreciate others happiness.
All of the things that I mentioned before are conditional. We exactly know how our boundaries work on people around us. Caring for others is a good thing. But, know the place! If you ever feel bad after hearing someone's unnecessary comment, just don’t do the same thing to others, ok?